Mastering the juggle - how I balance motherhood, marriage and management

February 16, 2024
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Life can often feel like a juggling act, and for many women, the roles of being a mother, wife, and manager can make that act even more complex.

Balancing the demands of a family, a growing career, and a marriage can be challenging.

My intentions are clear- I am building towards a lifestyle that I and my family can enjoy. While, at the same time, ensuring that I reach new heights in my career.

So, yes! Finding harmony in this chaos is possible with the right strategies and mindset.

Here's how you can successfully manage all aspects of your life (Photo: Ketut Subiyanto)
I think it is common knowledge that working in an accounting firm can be very demanding.

And everything is urgent and time-sensitive.

Making sure your clients are happy while you don't compromise on the rest of your life is volatile; any small move could have massive consequences.

However, I found a system that works for me to navigate the journey of being a mother, wife, and manager.

Here's how I do it:

Prioritize Self-Care 

The first step in successfully managing these roles is to prioritize self-care. Taking care of yourself is not selfish but essential. 

Whether it's a few minutes of meditation, a regular exercise routine, or a hobby you enjoy, carving out time for yourself is crucial. 

You can give your best to your family and career when you feel your best.

Communication is Key

Effective communication is vital in all aspects of life. Open and honest communication with your spouse and boss is essential to set expectations and boundaries. 

Discuss your commitments at work and home, and ensure your partner/spouse and employer understand the importance of a balanced life.

Time Management and Organization

Being organized is a lifesaver when managing multiple roles. 

Use calendars, to-do lists, and time management techniques to plan your day efficiently. Prioritize tasks, delegate when necessary, and set realistic goals for yourself.

Lean on Your Support Network

You don't have to do it all on your own.

Rely on your support network, including family, friends, and trusted colleagues, when you need assistance or a listening ear. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you're feeling overwhelmed; this is very important for me!

It's all about making it work for you (Photo: Ivan Samkov)

And don't feel shame in getting a full-time helper if you have the resources to do that. You don't have to be a superhero.

I am kilometres away from my family and close friends, and besides having a very hands-on husband, having our sesi (helper) is a safer life. 

Flexibility and Adaptability

Life is unpredictable, and you may encounter unexpected challenges.

Be flexible and adaptable in your approach.

Sometimes, you may need to adjust your schedule or delegate tasks to accommodate unforeseen circumstances.

Quality Over Quantity

Remember that it's not about how much time you spend with your family or at work, but the quality of that time.

When you are present and fully engaged in the moment, it can have a positive impact on your family life and career.

Set Realistic Expectations

Avoid striving for perfection in every aspect of your life.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Understand that there will be days when you can't do it all, and that's okay.

Set realistic expectations for yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself when things don't go as planned.

Seek Personal Fulfilment

Finding personal fulfilment outside of your roles as a mother, wife, and manager is essential. Pursue your passions and interests, whether related to your career or hobbies. Doing so will help you maintain a sense of self and happiness.

It is challenging, but it is not impossible.

You can navigate these roles successfully by prioritizing self-care, effective communication, time management, and seeking support when needed.

Remember, this is not a "How to article" it's about finding the right balance for you and your unique circumstances. Embrace the journey, enjoy the moments, and savour the rewards of being a dedicated mother, a loving wife, and a successful manager.